“I don’t have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who’d be mad at me for saying that.” — Mitch Hedberg
I’ve wanted to do this for the longest time. I really wanted to crush myths about dating and then share them with the rest of the world. It’s officially now time to crush some dating myths. These are myths that have probably been around since Adam and Eve. Did Eve start them? Is Adam responsible for these myths?
Myth #1: You need money to pick up chicks.
You need money to pay the rent and to have food in your stomach. You need money to survive. You need money to retire. You need money to travel and go on fun trips.
You don’t need money to get you some action. Sure you might need money for condoms and drinks. You don’t need an abundance of money. You certainly don’t need money to meet women.
Once you read this blog and improve your dating skills, you’ll see that you only need enough money to cover the basics (a bottle of vodka on a Friday night or bus fare to send her home).
Put it this way. Once you start getting laid more, you’re always going to feel good about yourself. When you meet some dude who’s richer than you but hasn’t seen a vagina since birth, you won’t feel inferior. Some guy that makes more money than you is just some guy with more money. What’s the big deal? You’re getting laid while this guys working long hours and killing his health.
Don’t stress about your financial situation. Be proud of who you and where you are. We all need to start somewhere.
It’s not where you are, it’s where you’re going that matters.
Myth #2: You need to look like Channing Tatum (or any other random dude that girls love) to get the girls.
“I would get more girls if I was better looking.” – said by every dude
You don’t need a six pack. You don’t need to be the sexiest guy in town. You don’t have to worry about wearing a $100 shirt. You don’t have to be attractive to get girls.
Men don’t have to be good looking. We just have to look good.
Confidence looks good. Being in control is attractive. Being a stud with the physique of a Greek God, but being completely needy, is not attractive. You don’t have to look like a Greek God to get girls. You can look like a Greek and still get them all.
This doesn’t mean that you can let yourself go, put on 20lbs. and start dressing like a slob. It just means that you don’t have to worry about looking like a younger version of Brad Pitt to meet hotties.
You can look better and feel amazing in ten minutes, just by doing some pushups and getting yourself a new t-shirt. You don’t have to be born with looks to be attractive to woman.
Trust me, we’ve all seen that one ugly dude who gets hot girls. Why? He’s confident. That’s more attractive than anything!
Myth #3: You have to be a natural to pick up chicks.
You absolutely don’t have to be a natural to get girls. I was a stuttering prick when I started high school. I couldn’t even fathom the idea of approaching a girl. I’ll share a funny story (funny in hindsight) about how nervous I was when I started high school.
One day a buddy came up to me and told me that some girl liked me. I didn’t think much of it. Then he suggested that I asked her out. I obviously didn’t. Then finally one day everyone surrounded me and the girl while we were in the same vicinity. Everyone started to egg us on. We just looked at each other awkwardly. We talked for a few minutes. I had nothing to say. ZERO. All I remember is that she wasn’t attractive at all.
The friend that was instigating everything was an ugly bastard. Turns out her super hot friend liked him. I couldn’t figure it out. Now I know why. He was confident and in control. I was a stuttering virgin.
Most of us will not be born naturals. We will completely suck at first. We will embarrass ourselves. We’ll turn to the Internet for answers. Eventually, we will become masters through experience and failure.
Seriously, how many guys really are naturals at dating? I’m sure that someone like The Rock, was born a natural (he claims he was). That’s also why he’s a superstar celebrity that’s worth millions of dollars.
For the rest of us, we’re likely born with average looks, no riches, and a normal physique. Guess what? That should never stop us. We can work on everything and work with what we have.
Those are the three main myths about dating that need to be crushed. Once you crush those three myths, you can excel at the art of seduction.