The place that we all turn to for meeting girls is the almighty night club/bar/pub/whatever the hell you want to call it.
This isn’t even debatable. This is a fact.
Why do we do this? Because the easiest place to approach is the nightclub. Many girls go out looking to get laid. All dudes go out looking to getting laid. The club is the best spot for beginners to get started.
I’m going to break clubbing down into a few distinct categories.
This is the ultimate guide to getting laid from clubs.
Before that happens, I need to share with you a secret technique that will instantly increase your chances of getting laid by 97%. You might not be at this level yet, but you will get there.
What’s this secret?
THE INSTANT MAKEOUT.
This is just a tease. Let’s take a step back if you’re not ready for the instant makeout. Baby steps.
The only rule you need to follow:
OWN THE NIGHT. SAY WHATEVER YOU WANT, ANY WAY YOU WANT!
Let’s look at the different phases of hitting up a night out at the bar.
Before you enter the club.
This is where the majority of the work will happen. They say the battle is usually won before you even begin to battle. In football they say that you win your trophies in practice, but you just don’t pick them up until you get to the competition.
What needs to be done before you enter the club?
- Basic grooming. It’s important that you take care of yourself.
- Do something different.
- Eat well.
- Work out. Make sure that you look your best and you feel marvelous about yourself. Don’t even leave home if you don’t feel great about yourself.
- Have an amazing wingman. Someone that insults you throughout the night or brings you down will only kill the mood. Trust me I’ve been on both ends of this spectrum. I’ve insulted my friends and vice versa. I remember being ashamed to even approach a girl because there would always be that one buddy that would mock me when the girl blew me off. Fuck that. A true wing has your back. A true wing doesn’t give you advice, because that comes off as if they’re talking down to you. A true wing is your partner in crime.
(Quick note: If your friends aren’t into the game, don’t worry. I show you how to find a wingman. There’s also nothing wrong with going out alone.)
Pump yourself up.
We always get pumped up before we go out. Getting pumped is easy. A few quick ways that you can get pumped before you enter the club include:
- Listen to music.
- Laugh with your buddies.
- Go for good food.
- Tell stories.
- Bust out some pushups.
It’s a great feeling to walk into the club already pumped up and ready to go! You better not even bother going out if you’re sad, feeling sorry for yourself, or plan on being a downer.
Once you’re in the club it’s officially game on.
When you walk in make sure that you’re smiling. Act like you own the place. Talk to all of the bouncers. Talk to everyone that you see. You’re out to have a great time.
Approach the first girls you see. Crash and burn if you have to. Make any small talk possible. Laugh it all of.
Remember that interrogation is not seduction. Don’t ask life story questions. Don’t give yours. Don’t ask them what they do or what school they go to. That’s so amateur and standard. Have fun.
When you finally do meet a hottie and she’s interested, then the game changes.
How can you seal the deal or attempt to seal the deal?
- Hook them in. The easiest way to hook any girl in is to display higher value and to not be so reactive. I’ve heard this over and over again. You need to be a man of higher value that doesn’t react.
- Hype up a destination. You need to hype something up. I’ve gotten laid a few times just by hyping up the idea of going for food. No girl will agree to go have sex after the club. Girls don’t want to admit to being sluts. They especially don’t want to act like sluts. It’s much easier for them to justify it to themselves if they tell their friends that you guys went for food and one thing led to another.
- Create a nickname. Give her a nickname. Don’t call her cutie or dollface, that’s just hurting. Create an instant connection by giving her a nickname.
- Build up to to it. Don’t go from zero to hero.
You left the club after having one hell of a night. Chances are that you either left with a cutie or you got a few numbers at least.
What do you do next?
Fuck all of these stupid rules. Every girl in the world knows the 3-day rule. Call the same night. Call the next day. Call whenever you want. Just don’t be needy when you call. Turn it into a joke. Laugh about your prompt call. Who cares?
Just don’t be desperate when you call.
We’ll get into this later. Back to the club for now.
How does the club scene work?
I hate to follow rules, but if you want to pound all of the beautiful girls out there, you need to follow some basic club etiquette. If you don’t want to then fine. Don’t listen to me. Keep on doing what you’ve been doing this time. There’s clearly a reason that you’re reading this today. You understand that you need a little extra guidance and you’re willing to go for it.
These are just some basic tips for getting started:
1. Always smile.
You’re not a weirdo if you smile. Get over it. Have a mean face or a serious look in a picture isn’t cool. You may feel like a badass but nobody gives a shit. So what? Some high school students on Facebook might think that you’re a big badass. Congratulations! Make sure to refill your bottle of lotion this weekend stud. Just keep on smiling because my friend you have everything to smile about. I believe in you.
2. Don’t double fist.
Double fisting will make for a cool Facebook picture. It’ll also make your buddies laugh. Big deal. Unless you’re at a birthday party or a bachelor party that’s not your goal. You’re not a clown.
The whole point of reading this is to help you get more ass more often.
There’s nothing wrong with drinking. Just don’t plan on running before you crawl. Have drinks. But don’t make it blatantly obvious that you’re getting drunk. That’s not cool. Believe me I’ve been there a million times. Girls have lost interest in me when they realized how stupidly drunk I was.
3. Don’t be afraid to talk to guys.
Lead the men and the women will follow.
Seriously. You’re going out to meet girls. I know that. However, do you think that really beautiful women travel alone? Rarely. They go with their guy friends or in mixed groups.
Join the group as if you’re one of them. Start giving high fives. Comment on the place. Comment on the girls. Tell a fucking story. Show some pictures from your phone. Let everyone know that you’re a dam cool guy. The girls will eventually begin to notice.
They’ll start wondering about who this guy is. How does everyone know this guy?
You’re building intrigue and comfort. After a few minutes of ignoring your target, politely ask the dudes if you can take her away for a moment to chat. If one of them intervenes by mentioning it their girlfriend, politely eject yourself from the situation. No need to scrap.
4. Stop looking around.
Looking around like your trying to pickup a shirt at a clothing store will make you look like a creep. Think about it. How desperate do you look when you’re frantically look around? Don’t do it.
5. Hang out with your wing.
Fuck everyone else. You’re there to have a good time. You can get girls anytime you want. Show that you guys are having a good time. You guys are loud (but not obnoxious). You guys are laughing. You guys are simply having a damn good time.
6. Dress different.
I remember going to a club where I knew ahead of time how everyone would generally be dressed. What did I do? I wore a pink t-shirt! Nope not a dress shirt. A pink shirt and jeans. Did I stick out? You can bet your last penny I did. In fact it was a really polarizing shirt. Some girls loved it and some hated it. Either way everyone knew who the hell I was.
Do you need to drink?
Do you ever notice how after 6 beers you instantly become the biggest stud in the bar? You start talking to any and every chick that walks by. You feel like the man. You’re the life of the party. You get a few numbers and then you finally leave. Then next weekend you decide to be the DD and go sober. All of a sudden you’re not so cool. You don’t really talk to anybody.
Or lets assume another situation occurs. You call up one of the girls that you met. You’re a bit nervous on the phone but you somehow gather the courage to make plans. You meet with the chick and she suddenly realizes that you’re not that smooth dude from the bar. You’re a stuttering prick.
What happened? Well why do you think alcohol sales are so high at nightclubs? Liquid confidence baby. That’s all it is. I’m not going to preach. I’m not going to lie. I don’t mind picking up girls sober, but having a few drinks is just so damn fun. Something about that buzz.
If you’re new to this, I totally don’t want you to stop drinking when you go out. I’ve noticed that this is one of the biggest mistakes made by newbies to the seduction community. They start to think that booze is bad. They trying going out sober. Yet they only get more frustrated every time that they go out. Why? Because they have the whole bag of tricks but they’re missing the balls needed to pull off some of these moves.
I suggest that you have a few drinks. A few only! Get to the point where you have a smile on your face and you’re in a fantastic mood. No more. Don’t be staggering. Don’t you dare even fall over. It’s funny to get blind drunk at a buddy’s bachelor party or something, not on a gaming night.
How do you make your approach when nervous?
I’m not an asshole that’s going to claim to you that I invented the art of pickup. I’ve just simply consumed lots of information over the years. Instead of having to look through the various manuals, I’m going to set you guys up with the information.
Therefore, saving you hours of your life.
Thanks to Mystery Method for the following effective system:
1. Wheel them in. Ask them a question. Get their opinion on something.
Opinions to ask for:
relationship stuff- Everyone knows everything about relationships.
Social life- Ask a chick about your two good friends who hooked up.
Trends- Girls LOVE talking about trends. Bring up a cool new hairstyle. Bring up a cool new clothing style. Or mock one of the above. You can ask, “Do tools always wear Ed Hardy?” Well you should make sure she’s not wearing an EH shirt unless you’re negging her of course.
Make fun of their answer. You’re not a kissass. You’re not her little pet. You’re a fun dude that likes to have a good time all the time.
Pretend you’re busy.
Tell an interesting story