How do you escape the friend zone?


“The hero and the coward both feel the same thing, but the hero uses his fear and projects it onto his opponent, while the coward runs.” ~ Cus D’Amato

How to escape the friend zone

You should never get into the friend zone. If you happen to be in the friend zone, then you need to make a move. Unfortunately, that’s not how life works and I understand that. I feel for you.

Nobody wants to get fat, be stuck in the friend zone, be in debt, or be in an atrocious situation. Life happens and we find ourselves stuck in a place where we don’t want to be. Luckily, all of your problems can be solved in this day and age with the help of technology and all of the information that it brings.

So what happened here? How are you in the friend zone?

You’re trapped for a reason. You didn’t make your intentions clear and now you’re stuck in this hideous position that you can’t get out of.

Moving forward, I want you to remember that the best way out of the friend zone is to simply never get into it (don’t stress, we also cover this in great detail as well!).

How can you avoid the friend zone for the rest of your life?

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Always go for the move.

Go for the kiss when you first meet. Don’t be afraid to show how you feel by making a move or at least let it be known that you’re going to make a move in the near future.

In society, we respect those who are bold and audacious. We don’t praise cowards. You will never hear a story get passed down for generations about the guy who lived in fear. This is why I believe in instant make outs. I don’t want you to get charged for sexual assault. I just want you to go in for ma kiss earlier than you normally do. I don’t want you to wait around aimlessly while your crush gets fed up because you’re afraid of even looking at her.

Make eye contact to show your confidence. Lean in. Go for the kiss. If she doesn’t pull away and your lips connect, she’ll be impressed by your bravado. If she pulls away or is offended, then she has no interest in you. You could have been just plain creepy.

You have to push it to the limit. You have to make things uncomfortable sometimes so that you can see if she has interest in you. No girl gets excited about spending a night with the boring guy. Why would they?

The instant make out strategy is simply all about going for the kiss inappropriately early. It’s bold, brave, and it works. The worst-case scenario is that she turns and you kiss her on the cheek. She’s going to respect you for at least letting it be known how you feel and that you would love to kiss her, because you’re not just a friend.

A few ways to shoot for the instant make out are:

  • Ask her a question. When she starts talking, tell her that she talks too much as you smile and quickly go for a kiss.
  • Ask her if she remembers her first kiss. Then ask her if she remembers her last kiss. Tell her she’s incorrect about her last kiss and go in for one.
  • Ask her if you should kiss her now or later when you first meet up. Then go in for the kiss.These are just random scenarios that I came up with off the top of my head. Yes, I know that they sound very corny. The beauty is that in life, it doesn’t matter what you say or what you do. What matters is how you say things and how you do things. Give the instant make out a try and tell me how it goes.

I’ll say it again: your crush has to know where you stand. Don’t be afraid to drop a sign or to let her know that you’re interested. Don’t be vague about it either.

You’re not playing it cool if you don’t make a move forever. You’re just being a little coward that doesn’t go after what he wants in life.

There’s a huge difference between being coy and being a coward. Coy works sometimes. Coward never works.

I’ll say it again: instant make out!

I promise you that pulling off instant make outs has allowed me to meet girls who were WAY out of my league. They respected my temerity.

One time I went for the instant make out and the girl wasn’t feeling it at all. What happened? She stopped me! No big deal. I’m still alive. She laughed it off. I laughed it off. We both moved on with our lives. It turns out she was apprehensive about letting any guy near her due to past experiences and I totally understand that. I apologized for coming on too strong.

Put her in the friend zone.

You read that correctly. This is another risky solution that won’t work 100% of the time, but is absolute magic when it does work. Don’t give her a chance to put you in the friend zone. Put her there first.

“This is my friend Kathy.”

I introduced a girl I was on a date with as my friend to my friends. I actually did this multiple times. Over and over again.

“I’m not your friend!”

She snapped on me finally. She got really frustrated with me introducing her as my friend to everyone. She couldn’t take it. She didn’t like the feeling of being referred to as a friend.

Tell your crush about other girls.

If you never talk about other girls or what you’re up to, it’s going to make you look like you’re madly in love with her. You don’t want that. Don’t be afraid to go out and have fun. Don’t be nervous to meet other girls. You’re single, fun, and cool.

Go on a few dates. Let her know about these dates so that she knows she’s on thin ice. Keep her posted about other girls who you’re talking to so that she knows you’re a prize.

Nobody wants you until somebody has you.

This advice may sound childish, but it’s the reality of the situation. We all want what we can’t have. Why would she date you if she thinks that nobody else on this planet is remotely interested in you?

She’s going to have a ton more respect for you when she finds out that you’re actually enjoying life and not waiting at home for her to respond to your text.

Stop being so available.

I was crazy about this chick in high school and she wanted nothing to do with me when I tried to instant message her on MSN Messenger. Then one day I created a new MSN Messenger account (sucks to be you if you never were on MSN or watched Saved By The Bell growing up) because my account was hacked. I added all of my friends again. I didn’t add her because I knew that she didn’t like me. I just gave up. I didn’t want to add someone who ignored me.

Then all of a sudden, she started chasing me. She told her friends to message me. She tried inviting me to become contacts (bigger deal than it sounds). She even lectured me for not adding her.

I was confused. She didn’t like me. She made it clear that she wanted nothing to do with me Why did she suddenly care about chatting with me? Why did this happen?

I unexpectedly wasn’t so available. I wasn’t desperate to send her a hello or to follow-up 20 times on a question.

Of course, I messed this up by becoming needy all over again. You live, you learn.

When your crush asks you to do something, don’t be so quick to do it. You can’t be so available. She can’t miss you if you’re never gone.

You really need to stop the daily phone calls and promptly responding to every single text message.

Who does she think you are? Some sucker? Some loser? Some dude who has nobody else to talk to at all?

You have your own life, your own plans, and your own goals. You can’t be sitting by the phone waiting to jump at any opportunity to communicate or to drive her somewhere.

Being needy and available 24/7 will land you right in the friend zone.

Create some mystery so that she thinks about you when you’re not around. You want her to miss you. You want her to chase you. You’d be surprised by how many ladies out there are dying for a challenge. Beautiful girls are bored. They’re tired of guys complimenting them and pandering on social media all of the time.

Be ready to walk away.

If you’re not ready to lose her, just give up. You have to be ready to walk away or to move on at any second.

Females can smell desperation from a mile away. You have to be ready to move on if she’s not on board. If you’re crazy about her and can’t breathe without her, this will turn her off. She won’t be attracted to you. I don’t know why this is the case, but it just is. Trust me on this one.

Are you ready to walk away? Could you handle life without her if things don’t work out?

If you’re not ready to walk away just yet, you need to keep on reading because I’m going to help you with this. It’s easier said than done. I too have struggled with walking away.

Never agree to be put in a compromising situation.

There are certain situations that all guys need to avoid. Don’t let her cry to you about other guys or her love life. Don’t let her treat you like a brother. Don’t let her put you in a position where you’re going to quickly find yourself stuck as a friend.

You need to avoid all compromising situations moving forward or I’m going to suplex you.

Some common examples include:

  • Going to her birthday party to shower her with attention with the dozens of other guys there.
  • Meeting her boyfriend (seriously!).
  • Meeting her friends too soon.
  • Driving her around when she feels like treating you like a taxi.
  • Listening to stories about female problems and other guys.
  • Hanging out with her and her friends.
  • Being the shoulder to cry on.
  • Hearing about other dudes she’s talking to.

Have some self-respect! Once you get placed in a compromising position, you’re going to have a difficult time digging out of the friend zone. You’re better off ignoring her invites than you are showing up and looking like a loser.

Make her chase you!

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Use her game against her! Let her chase you. Don’t be so quick to appease her, you coward.

She has to chase you. You’re the catch and you need to start acting like it.

This means that you need to ditch her sometimes, break plans, leave early, end the conversation first, and just be the one in control of the situation.

This applies to you if you’re already in the friend zone or if you want to avoid it. Flip the script as soon as possible!

Stop being so needy.

“Everybody pities the weak; jealousy you have to earn.” ~ Arnold Schwarzenegger

Do you really want her pity? No. You want her to chase you because you’re the prize. Nobody has time for a needy person. We all have that needy friend who has to message us about everything. This friend demands your attention 24/7. You can’t stand it. So imagine how the girl feels if you’re a needy bitch?

I’ve seen too many of my buddies lose girls because they became needy. I don’t know why this happens. A guy will go from being a confident stud to a needy dweeb in a matter of seconds.

I won’t even pretend to lie. This has also happened to me. We can all go from feeling confident to needy in the blink of an eye. There’s nothing I can tell you here that’s going to provide you with an on/off switch for your neediness, so I’ll say this.

Think about why she liked you in the first place or why the last girl fell for you. She was attracted to your confidence and security. Just as quickly as she was attracted to your confidence, she can just as quickly be turned off by your neediness.

Have some damn confidence.

“Do you maybe want to go out sometime for a drink or something?”

That’s pathetic. I couldn’t help but laugh when a friend told me how he sent that classic line out to his crush via text.

Why even bother?

The most pathetic thing a man can do is to show any hesitation at all. Think about this for a second. If the girl happens to be somewhat attractive, she meets plenty of guys on a daily basis. What makes you think that your pathetic offer is going to impress her?



Don’t even waste your time. Don’t waste her time.

Be confident when you’re asking her out. I’m guilty of crossing the line and becoming arrogant, but that’s just me.

I’ll go as far as to assume that the answer is a yes. Some of my classic lines are (stolen from friends, experts and media):

  • You better dress cute when we hang out on Friday.
  • Hey, can you stop thinking about me so much?
  • You pick the date and I pick the movie.
  • I hope you’re ready for a fun night.
  • Where are you taking me out this weekend?

Yes, these are arrogant. The good news is that they kill any hint of hesitation or fear. You might get a laugh, you might get a no, or you might just line yourself up with a one-way ticket out of the friend zone. If she calls you arrogant or mocks you, tell her to lighten up because you’re just kidding around. You’re a fun guy who likes to joke around. I’d rather be called arrogant then be placed in the friend zone.

You don’t have to offer the world or profess your love. You’re just making plans for a night out. That’s all. So chill out and show some damn confidence.

That’s how you break free from the friend zone. Not all of these tips will apply to you, but at least one will and that one tip will change your life forever. I don’t care if you’re already in the friend zone or want to avoid it in the future, this chapter alone should help you change your life.

Article summary:

Escape the friend zone

To escape the friend zone, you need to make your intentions clear. You’re not looking to be a human pillow. You’re not going to be the shoulder to cry on. You’re going to be the guy that she’s up all night thinking about. You have to let her know who you are. You don’t have to tell her that you love her, you just have to let her know that you’re not the kind of guy that she can walk all over. You need to be stern when it comes to the friend zone or you’re going to be trapped in it forever.

You have to tell her about other girls so that she’s constantly on thin ice. She won’t be so fast to friend-zone you when she knows that you have options and other females are after you. Nobody wants you until somebody has you. You’ve already experienced this at some point in your life. You lose all interest in the girl and she suddenly wants you back.

You have to let her chase you. You’re the prize. You’re not going to be so available all of the time. She better hope that you respond to that text message. She better hope that you don’t walk away for another lady.

You need to have some damn confidence. Girls aren’t attracted to weak guys. Don’t half-ass anything in life, especially not your courting attempts.

When you’re making plans, always assume that the answer is yes. Why wouldn’t she want to hang out with a fun guy like you? Why wouldn’t anyone want to be around you?

What’s next?

This was a sample chapter from my book on escaping and avoiding the friend zone. This is the best book on the market on this topic. I never want you to feel like a loser again. Life’s far too short to be stuck in the friend zone. Check out the sales page on Amazon and you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the reviews (especially the ones from females!).

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Cheers to avoiding the friend zone in the future. We’ve all been there. We can’t look back right now.

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“I couldn’t breathe and had nothing to talk about.”

A buddy of mine told me about his first date with the girl of his dreams. It was a complete disaster. We have all been there. Every single person reading this has been on a pathetic first date.

Over the years, I’ve helped many friends with their first dates. I’ve also gone on my fair share of embarrassing first dates. I felt that it was my moral obligation to write a colossal guide to handling a first date.

Have a great first date

What are some great first date ideas?

Your first date is getting closer and here you are still searching for good first date ideas.

You know that you want to leave an amazing first impression and you also know that this is a girl that you really want to impress on the first date. What are you going to do? How can you impress this new chick without stressing out until the big day comes?

The good news is that I’ve been on many first dates and I’ve chatted with a whole bunch of buddies about first date options to put this list together. You now get access to the best first date ideas for free. All you have to do is keep on reading…

For your help I’ve divided the great first date ideas into 3 different categories:

1. Fun first date ideas.

  • Bowling. Nothing like a little competition on the first time you go out. Don’t let her win because that’s lame. Have fun and show her how you knock those pins down. Turn it into a bet if you want to show her you know how to have a good time. I usually says that loser has to buy dinner next time or winner gets to pick the movie we watch next time (you see what I did there?)
  • Mini-golfing. Another fun activity, especially in the summer time. If it’s cold out then you can always try out glow in the dark mini-golf. You can’t be bored while mini-golfing unless you’re a boring person.
  • Comedy club. This is the most fun option for a fun first idea. You don’t have to say a word and you both can laugh all night. How can you go wrong? Just don’t sit at the front so that the comedian doesn’t kill you for being on your first date. I swear to you that you can’t go wrong at a comedy club.

2. Safe first date ideas.

  • Tourist attraction. What’s better than pretending to be a tourist in your own town? Go to a tourist sight that you’ve been meaning to see if you want to make it a good first date. There’s automatic conversation and you get to see something new.
  • Take a class together. Taking a class together will guarantee that you guys are chatting all evening and working on something together. You can do a cooking class or some sort of a gym class. All that matters is that you guys have something to do, something to talk about, and are able to have some fun together. There’s nothing worse than going to a coffee shop and trying to make SUPER awkward small talk over a cup of expensive coffee.

3. Status first date ideas.

  • Your favorite bar. The beauty about your favorite bar is that people will know you there. As soon as you walk in, the bartender and local drinkers should be ready to acknowledge you, giving you lots of instant status. You need your new date to know that you’re a cool dude that gets along well with others. Trust me, women watch out for this sort of stuff. If you can lead the men, the women will follow.
  • Bring her to one of your games. If you play a sport (and are decent at it) you can bring your first date to a game that you’re playing. Hopefully it’s not a long game that bores her to death. There’s nothing better for more motivation than knowing that you have a sexy young lady watching you play.

Those were my the best first date ideas that I could think of.

I’ve been on some totally lame first dates. I’ve also been on many amazing first dates that either led to a solid long term relationship or a quick one night intimate encounter that I’ll never forget. Both are good outcomes.

The more first dates you go on the more you’ll learn about what works and what doesn’t. Some girls are very uptight and don’t want to go mini-golifing. Others are very daring and you guys can end up having a blast doing a biking trail together. After a few first dates you’ll know what works.

How do you stay calm after planning the first date?

 This is the only question that’s going to be on your mind from the moment you setup the first date until the first date actually starts.

Don’t worry it’s perfectly normal to go through this stress. We all go through it. No matter how much of a natural you feel like, it’s bound to happen. From the moment that you setup the first date until the date actually happens it can easily feel like the longest stretch in the world. As the day gets closer we feel more stressed. You found this article for a reason. I’m here to help you.

  • Don’t you wish you could not stress at all about your next first date?
  • Are you tired about being nervous?

Let’s look at the build up to the first date and how you can handle it like a stud…

“Success is often achieved by those who don’t know that failure is inevitable.” – Coco Chanel

Don’t think about the first date too much.

You’re a stud my friend. You don’t have time to stress about the first date because this is your new life and you’ll be going on many first dates over the next little while. There’s nothing to stress about. This is just another day at the office for you. Think about your goals, projects your working on, your fitness, and other fun stuff. Don’t worry about that upcoming first date.

Remember your past accomplishments.

Think of all of those people that you’ve met over the years that just think you’re the coolest dude around. Remember all of your past success with meeting new people. Think of past accomplishments. Remember that you are the man!

You’re not the kind of dude that flops. You’re not the guy that feels sorry for himself. You are the man. You don’t need to worry about your first date. You don’t have to worry about anything. You’re ready for this.

Think of all of the cool stuff you’ve done in your life. You have so much to be proud. You’ve lived an amazing life and it’s only going to get better. This young lady can either be apart of a remarkable ride or she can get off and someone better can get on.

Focus on a positive outcome.

I know that it sounds corny to “think positive,” but what’s your other option? The outcome is going to be positive. You’re going to have some fun and spend an evening with an interesting young lady. What else can you ask for? Life is amazing!

Get a quick pump.

You need a quick pump before your first date. You need to release some endorphins. Go for a jog, bust out 50 pushups, hit the boxing bag, or you know.

You need to do whatever you need to so that you get a quick pump. You want to go in feeling damn amazing about yourself.

Nobody wants to hang out with some guy that feels sorry for himself. If I find out you’re feeling sorry for yourself I’m going to kick your ass over the Internet.

I have faith in you. If nobody else does I still do.

“The great accomplishments of man have resulted from the transmission of ideas of enthusiasm.” – Thomas J. Watson

An important first date rule that you must follow…

The first date might often be the last date. The first date can also be the floodgates to a brand new relationship or a friends-with-benefits scenario.

On your first date you obviously want to impress your new lady friend. This is a make or break date, so you clearly want to leave a lasting impression. You’re either getting out of a relationship and looking to get laid or you’re looking for someone to settle down with. Both are perfectly common and normal scenarios to be in on a first date.

An important rule to follow on your first date is to watch out what day you give her.

You need to remember that you’re now a stud. You’re a popular dude that hangs out with his many friends on Friday and Saturday nights. Most first date advice revolves around everything else but the actual day. I’m here to ensure that you have the best first date ever in every way of the word.

What are ideal nights for a first date?

Anything from Sunday to Thursday. Thursday is pushing it a bit. Anything at the beginning of the week is cool because most of us usually don’t do anything at start of the week except for complain about work. Instead of dreading going in to work or school, you can set up that first date and have a blast on a Tuesday night.

There’s also less people (especially drunk and obnoxious people) out at the beginning of the week. This means that you don’t have to worry about long lines, expensive cover, delays, traffic, and drunks trying to ruin your first date. It’s up to you to own the first date and for you both to have an amazing night that neither of you will forget.

Why is the actual day of the first date so important?

You need to display higher value and some status.

If you’re such a cool dude how could you have no plans on a Friday or Saturday night?

The first date should be on a week night. When the date asks you about a possible future meeting on a weekend, let her know that you’re just too busy.

Trust me she will respect you more. She will work harder to do whatever she can to get a hold of one of your weekends. Eventually you guys can start hanging out 7 days a week if you want. For now, keep it casual.

Too often do beginners make themselves look desperate by trying to plan first dates on the weekend. You should also NEVER ever go on a first date on your birthday or a holiday. Seriously. You have lots of friends and you have better things to do than hang out with a complete stranger.

In a funny side story, I once went out with a chick in May to a patio. It was like a Wednesday night and I thought nothing of it. When we got the bar I realized that it was the Mexican holiday, Cinco de Mayo. We had a good laugh about how we unintentionally ended up spending a holiday together.

First date conversation tips to help you calm down.

The first date is finally here and you’re scrambling for some first date conversation.

Every single dude in this universe has gone through the thought, “what am I going to talk about on the first date?” It’s perfectly natural to go through this. Those that say they don’t get nervous about first date conversation are simply lying to you.

What are some first date conversation tips to help you calm down?

“I like thinking big. If you’re going to be thinking anything, you might as well think big.” – Donald Trump.

Laugh at the awkwardness.

Everyone knows that a first date can be awkward. It’s okay to laugh about this. When I was out on a first date once, the Doorman asked if she was my girlfriend, I responded that it was my future ex-wife. You need to have some fun. We both had a good laugh about it and looked back it over our relationship whenever we discussed how fun our first date was.

If you met on Tinder or an online dating site, then joke around about this. Tell her that you guys need to come up with a better story for how you met.

It’s okay to laugh at the awkwardness of the situation.

Everyone knows that a first date isn’t the most comfortable thing in the world. There’s no need to make it worse. It shows that you’re a cool and confident dude that’s not ashamed to poke fun. Hey, it beats the alternative of being all tense.

Plan your future.

I like to role-play (not what you’re thinking dirty boy!) on first dates. It shows that you like to poke fun at those “sensitive” guys that like to get serious right away. It also shows that you don’t give a shit about “first date rules.” You my friend are just out to have a good time. You can talk about your future, you can joke around about who gets to keep the pets. It’s all in good fun.

Ask questions.

You can never go wrong in a conversation when asking questions. You just need to remember that interrogation isn’t seduction. You’re not a cop. You don’t need to ask her a million typical questions.

I wanted to look at both good and bad questions to ask on a first date.

What are some totally LAME questions to ask on a first date?

  • What school do you go to?
  • What’s your major?
  • What company will you apply for?
  • Anything that isn’t fun.

Stop asking boring questions.

What are some good questions to ask on a first date that will actually spark conversation?

  • What’s the most exciting thing you’ve ever done?
  • What’s holding you back from chasing your dreams?
  • What do you regret not doing the most?
The whole goal is to have a blast, laugh, and talk about different shit. You don’t need to interrogate to get to know someone.

Go out there and enjoy as many first dates as you can until you find the lady of your dreams. You have nothing to worry about man. Trust me. When you’re older and more experienced you’re going to look back at all of those first dates and laugh about how nervous you were for absolutely no reason.

What should I wear on that first date?

Your first date outfit is a huge deal. You may not want to admit it, but we all know that you’re going to change at least 16 times before your next first date.

What to wear on a first date?

This will feel like a bigger decision than when you chose what college to attend or what job offer to accept. For us dudes it’s difficult to admit that we actually care about the first date. Most of us want to act like “naturals” and feel that the first date outfit is not a big deal. I’m here to be completely honest with you. We all get nervous about that first date outfit. It’s not until you go on a dozen first dates in a short period of time that you realize what works and what doesn’t. When you’re first getting started it’s nerve-wrecking to determine what to wear on a first date.

Attire depends on where you’re going for the first date.

Yes it totally depends on where YOU (yes you, and not her) have decided where the first date is going to take place. Since you have and should have control of the first date location you have the upper hand on knowing what the proper attire is. You’re not going to go to a concert in a suit. You’re also not going to go to an expensive martini bar in sweat pants.

The amazing part of clothes is that you can change them at any time that you wish and become a totally different person. You need to use your common sense and dress accordingly.

My best tips on using common sense to decide what to wear on a first date are:

  1. Wear jeans if you’re going to a bar.
  2. Wear dress pants only if the occasion calls for it. You don’t want to look like you try too hard.

What you wear on a first date is determined strictly by the location.

Keep your first date outfit casual.

Don’t overdo it. You don’t want to make it seem that this is the first date that you’ve been on in five years (even if it is!). I always stress to friends that they keep the firs date casual. As much as you want to make a big impression, you don’t need to go all out. You can save the suit-and-tie dinners for when you guys are actually dating.

Save yourself some money and keep your first dates casual. You want to get to know the person. You don’t need to impress them and convince them to think that you’re some millionaire. Keep it casual and have fun. Your first date isn’t a job interview

Tell her what to wear on the first date.

Telling a woman what to wear can be extremely powerful. Trust me because I do this all the time (when I’m single and going on first dates, of course). When you tell a woman what to wear on a first date you establish that you’re a confident man who knows what he wants out of life. There’s nothing more attractive than that. You don’t want to seem like a dork.

My favorite ways of telling a girl what to wear on a first date are:

  • Dress cute so that we match.
  • Wear blue shorts so that you can match my favorite shirt.
  • We’re going somewhere casual so you better not over dress and embarrass us.
  • We’re going somewhere formal, so don’t dress like you would to the gym.
  • Dress well because I have a reputation to uphold (when you build more confidence you can use this one).

Once you get into the habit of telling your first dates what to wear, you’ll feel much more confident about your own attire. Just don’t forget to land first dates by following our previous tips.

There you have it man. Now you know how to have a killer first date every single time. What do you have to be worried about? Absolutely nothing. Go out there and have a blast. Life is short. Enjoy the precious moments like first dates, first kisses, and first breakfast together.

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How to meet girls these days

“Where do you go to meet girls these days?”

Most of my friends are confused about this. The other day I was talking to a buddy who had just gotten out of a serious a relationship — a very serious one — the kind where you move in together. He was now living on his own and confused about what to do.

He wanted to get back in game. Actually, he was dying to get back in the game. Figuring out where to meet a girl is a tricky topic. Most of your buddies either suck at meeting girls or they get completely hammered and hope for the best.

Chances are that you don’t want to get completely ruined on a Monday night while trying to score a date.

Since I didn’t record the conversation, I wanted to do the next best thing and summarize it. I also share the top three tips for each source. This is the advice that I shared with a close friend so you better take it seriously.

Where can you meet girls these days?

Let’s look at the four best ways to meet a girl these days!

1. Tinder.

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you know what Tinder is and you have it on your phone. Every single dude needs to download this app ASAP. If you haven’t downloaded Tinder, what are you waiting for? This is the most addictive app on my phone and it beats playing any pointless game. You get to interact with chicks from your phone.

The best part is that you can test out thousands of different openers. Every new match is a new opener. So experiment and have some fun.

How do you meet chicks here?

The jury is still out on the proper Tinder technique and how to get laid the fastest. I believe that it’s all about your profile and your pictures. I try to post pictures of me doing cool things (wrestling, trips, etc.) so that the chick will actually want to talk to me.

Long story short is this: you have to find a way to stick out.

How will you stick out? I don’t know. I checked out College Humor to look at some of the weirdest Tinder profiles.

Funny Tinder Profiles

As you can see, Daniel is using humor. I personally have pictures of me with friends, fans from wrestling, and other scenarios. I tried to make my profile funny by writing, “Let’s get this straight, we met at the mall.”

You have to experiment when trying to meet chicks here. You have nothing to lose. So what if she unmatches you?

2. Facebook.

Every single person has Facebook. Actually, the last stat that I saw on this mentioned that Facebook has over 1 billion registered users. In other words, every single girl you’ve ever had a crush on or will have a crush on is on Facebook.

I use Facebook for business and dating. I use Facebook for everything. I don’t actively look for dates on Facebook, but it literally takes one second to message that young lady who has been liking all of your pictures to ask her out.

How do you meet chicks here?

Have a profile that makes you look like the most interesting man in the world. Seriously, this works.

I do lots of interesting things: BJJ, pro wrestling, write books, travel, party, and so on. I try to post pictures of me and my different friends. This makes me look fun. I also tag friends, joke around, and get everyone going. This makes it really easy to meet girls on Facebook.

For further reading check out this article on how to flirt with women on Facebook.

3. Out in public during the day.

The experts call this “day game.” I call it being a brute who doesn’t give a shit about what time it is because the girl of your dreams isn’t going to wait for the sun to go down to meet a young lad.

How do you meet chicks here?

  • Grow a set of balls and speak to people in real life.
  • Talk like an old man and ask questions.
  • Smile and make eye contact.
  • Stay busy. Go for walks, hit the mall, check out coffee shops, and make sure that you’re always up to something.
  • Keep it simple. Ask for a Facebook or number without being aggressive since it’s the middle of the day.

4. Club.

This should be your last resort. The good news and bad news is that every girl is drunk at a club. This could work to your advantage as social lubricant or you could end up with some belligerent fool who’s going to puke in your car.

Truthfully, there are millions of articles out there about meeting girls on clubs. You can analyze the angle you approach at, the way you smell, and the style in which you speak. None of it matters if you don’t have any charm.

How do you meet chicks here?

  • Have a few drinks without getting drunk.
  • Go out on random nights with just one buddy or two max.
  • Do whatever you want. Approach every single girl with a stupid line.
  • Meet a chick and chat her up all night.
  • Work your magic until she wants to leave with you.
  • Tease her. Make fun of her. Keep on smiling.

Where should you start meeting girls right now?

I would start with social media because you’re always on it.

What if these sources fail me?

[Must read: Why you’re not meeting any girls and how-to fix this.]

They’re going to fail you. Look at all of the competition out there.There are millions of horny guys out there. Every single person is on social media trying to get laid.

You can’t let the competition scare you. What you need to remember is that 99.9% of guys suck at meeting chicks. Think about it. You used to suck. Most of your buddies suck.

If you want to get laid more often and meet more girls in general, you need to contact me to see if we could work together. I’m here to serve you and help you meet more chicks than ever.

“The brave may not live forever – But the cautious do not live at all.” — Sir Richard Branson


“You were so rude to her. How could she like you?”

I can’t remember how many times I’ve been presented with this question. I wish that I had a logical answer.

Common knowledge is all about showing respect, kissing ass, and waiting for your turn.

Well, hope isn’t a game plan!

Do the bad guys really have all of the fun? Do you have to be a jerk to feel in control and on top of the world?

Bad guys have all the fun


I won’t even pretend to sugarcoat this. You can’t deny the truth.

[Mandatory reading: The Stifler System For Meeting Girls & Becoming a New Man.]

The bad guys have all of the fun!

Have you ever seen a jerk feeling bad? Have you ever seen an arrogant dude have a bad day? Have you ever seen a miscreant feeling sorry for themselves? Hell no. It doesn’t happen. The bad guys always have fun.

“You can’t have her. You already have that other girl that likes you.”

A friend once gave me grief about my courting.

Guess what?


The bad guys do whatever they want, whenever they want. Bad guys don’t care. Bad guys are busy and don’t stress about girls because they have so much going on. The bad guys don’t stress about what others have to say about them either.

The bad boys have all of the fun because everyone else is too busy being nice and phoney. Villains don’t care how they come off because they believe in full transparency. Life’s too short to hide your beliefs.

With that being said, you might be curious about something…

How do you become a bad guy?

Sometimes you just can’t. You can’t fake it nor can you learn it. You might not have it in you to put yourself first.

You can try to slowly become the bad guy over time. You can break free from the chains of mediocrity and let loose to grab what life has to offer.

If you’re willing to give it a try, here are a few things to remember…

What are some common characteristics of the bad guy?

  • They don’t care about what you think.
  • They do what they want.
  • They go after what they want.
  • They’re relentless.
  • They’re a gentleman when they need to be.
  • They like to have fun.
  • They don’t let anyone bring them down.
  • They don’t feel sorry for themselves when things don’t work out.
  • They live life on their own terms.
  • They break hearts.
  • They control the situation.

What are things that bad guys never do?

  • Waste time.
  • Feel pity.
  • Blame others for their problems.
  • Stress about the outcome.
  • Stress about women.

The problem with nice guys is that their whole belief system is often flawed. They have been screwed up with a weak upbringing and now let people walk all over them.

How could you let a girl walk all over you?

How could you possibly allow someone to put you down?

Bad guys don’t have to deal with these problems.

Are you ready to become the bad guy?

Probably not. Most guys shouldn’t even bother. I urge you to give it a try to see if you have it in you to be selfish and self-centred.

[Must read: Why You’re Not Meeting Any Girls (and how-to fix it)]

This is your wake up call to stop kissing ass. You don’t have to be a jerk. You just have to put yourself first once in a while. You have to do what’s best for you.

“To be successful you have to be selfish, or else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level, then you have to be unselfish. Stay reachable. Stay in touch. Don’t isolate.” — Michael Jordan

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“I go out almost every single night and I still can’t meet any girls. What gives?”

Does this sound like you? Are you fed up with always going out and never getting any results?

Too many of my friends are like this.

You want to know why?

Getting laid isn’t about going out every single night and hoping for the best. That’s like just showing up at the gym and hoping for the best without a real workout plan or strategy.

You’re not going to get jacked if you don’t put in the work where it matters (hitting your lifts, getting in enough protein, and rest). How could you expect to meet girls just by showing up?

The world isn’t fair. You don’t get rewarded for attendance. Girls don’t get excited about meeting that dude who happens to always be standing around at the bar.

What’s the exact lifestyle that leads to meeting unlimited amounts of women?

You have to look like the most interesting man in the world from the outside. You must have shit going on. You have to be the life of the party. Hell, you have to be the life of parties that you don’t even attend.

The guy who’s busy with hobbies, friends, sports, business, work, and life, is the one who meets girls. Not the dude sitting at home and dying to get drunk on a Wednesday night. The guy spending all day on Tinder isn’t more likely to get laid than the dude always on-the-go.

What are the characteristics of the ideal lifestyle?

  • Self-employed or with a flexible schedule so that you’re not always miserable.
  • Involved in sports so that you have things to do and places to invite girls.
  • Attend a gym with classes. This allows you to meet lots of people.
  • Booming social life. Always have plans and somewhere to be.
  • Family-based. Family always comes first.
  • Curious. This is the cure to boredom.
  • Into many different things. I do everything from salsa lessons to BJJ because I love to learn.

Do any of these match your current lifestyle? It’s okay. Change is easy.

[Mandatory reading: The Stifler System For Meeting Girls & Becoming a New Man.]

How do you get to this lifestyle?

Stop being a little bitch.

You need to stop going after drunk girls at bars. You need to stop waiting for something to happen. You ned to do one of the following:

  • Start your own business.
  • Try a new sport.
  • Quit a crappy job.
  • Stop hanging out with the same losers.
  • Move.
  • Step out of your comfort zone finally.

Are you ready to stop being such a little bitch?

Make the changes one day at time.

Don’t think that you can turn your whole life around in one hour or one day or even one week. This will take time. This might take weeks or months or year. That doesn’t matter. All that’s important here is that you commit to making changes today.

Never stress about meeting girls.

As counterintuitive as this is, you need to stop stressing! Girls will come. You’ll expose yourself to better situations for meeting girls. You’ll get laid. Don’t panic.

Watch the magic unfold.

It’s a different universe when you’re not desperate to you to meet girls every night. You might people naturally. You get set up by friends. It’s actually pretty magical.

If you only read one article on here, it better be this one.

[Must read: Why You’re Not Meeting Any Girls (and how-to fix it)]

You better become the kind of dude that makes shit happens, makes friends, makes money, and has girls dying to meet up. Don’t ever be desperate to meet up with someone because that’s just pathetic and you’re not here to be another loser.

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